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Keeping my marriage or letting GO!
Married for 22 years good at first, struggles solved , Lies began Adultery began I forgave, Drugs abuse, Suicide attempts, Counseling, Fights, Physical Abuse, now Detox for the second time, Unemployed, I'm tired i just want to be happy I am the only person in this house that attends church and they know i am a prayerful mother and wife because I truly believe that's what has me still here. I Lost my mother due to Doctor error and I miss her, But I have the best sisters ever, This is my battle i CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE. But i battle with my marriage forever and doing whats right and stay,. Or i Let go and find my happiness because this is tearing up inside the name callings etc is too much.. Please i have friends that say Let go and do you. But to me that's so selfishness.. Is it ? Curious to hear what you would say,
Thank you,
God bless you guys :)
Marisol
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Permalink Reply by Nicolette Edmister on -
Letting go doesn't mean giving up. Let go and give your marriage to God. This is easier said than done. I know, my husband left on the 1st of January after being married for 12 years and having two affairs. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce. He is a God of restoration and reconciliation. Truly give your marriage to God. Tell Him you can't handle it at all anymore, that you are broken, and that you give up. Have you tried reading "The Love Dare"? I also recommend "The 5 Love Languages". I just read this and wish I would have read it years ago. At least when my husband visits the kids and when he returns for good I can practice what I have learned. Also, I really encourage you to visit www.rejoiceministries.org
Stand for your marriage--It will be worth it!
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Permalink Reply by Shane Berger on
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I agree with Nicolette. The 40 Day Love Dare is something absolutely amazing to try. I'll tell you it will be one of the hardest things to complete because the rewards do not come right away.
A couple of my favorite versus are below, it's hard to do sometimes, but he wants us to tell him what we need. Tell him how we feel. Tell him we're angry and full of confusion. He wants those feelings...
Philippians 4:6-7
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
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Permalink Reply by Marisol Bracken on
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Thank you Nicole, But i think there's too much damage done. There's no trust there anymore and the drug abuse its bad. Let alone the mental abuse and the name calling, UGH! But i will look out for the books thank you.. Blessings:)
Nicolette Edmister said:Letting go doesn't mean giving up. Let go and give your marriage to God. This is easier said than done. I know, my husband left on the 1st of January after being married for 12 years and having two affairs. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce. He is a God of restoration and reconciliation. Truly give your marriage to God. Tell Him you can't handle it at all anymore, that you are broken, and that you give up. Have you tried reading "The Love Dare"? I also recommend "The 5 Love Languages". I just read this and wish I would have read it years ago. At least when my husband visits the kids and when he returns for good I can practice what I have learned. Also, I really encourage you to visit www.rejoiceministries.org
Stand for your marriage--It will be worth it!
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Permalink Reply by Marisol Bracken on
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Thank you for the advise Shane. It's hard! Blessings.:)
Shane Berger said:I agree with Nicolette. The 40 Day Love Dare is something absolutely amazing to try. I'll tell you it will be one of the hardest things to complete because the rewards do not come right away.
A couple of my favorite versus are below, it's hard to do sometimes, but he wants us to tell him what we need. Tell him how we feel. Tell him we're angry and full of confusion. He wants those feelings...
Philippians 4:6-7
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
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Permalink Reply by Shane Berger on
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Marisol,
You can find all of the days and the explanations here:
http://www.klove.com/blog/post/2010/01/05/The-40-day-journey-starts...
Praying for you..
Shane
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Permalink Reply by Diana Meyer Bobo on -
Marisol ~ I feel your pain.... I was married to my husband for 21+ years. We separated finally in October of last year and I thought that would make it all easier ~ it's not!!! My husband lied to me for most if not all of our married life ~ he has a problem with porn and I knew nothing about it until I caught him a couple of years ago... he said at the time that he didn't know why, but that it wouldn't happen again ~ IT DID!!!! That is when he finally came clean and told me that he has done this since he was young and that he doesn't know why he married me or if he ever loved me. Now that my heart has been ripped out, stomped on and run over ~ I am trying to get on with my life, but as I said.... it's not easy!!! You have to pray.... a LOT and do what is best for you.
I'll be praying for you and know that God will be with you no matter what you decide to do!!!your sister in Christ
Diana
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Permalink Reply by Gerald on -
Marisol, God hates divorce but he loves his children!!
God loves you! Does he want you to live in abuse
And endure it because he hates divorce? I think
Sometimes separation can be healing, you are
Both free to work on yourselves, get healing and
Find your own peace? I don't believe in running off
And divorcing at the first sign of trouble, but I know
That if my child was living with abuse, I would tell
Her to get out and find safety! You are Gods child! He loves you!
God bless you!
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Permalink Reply by Marisol Bracken on
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Thank you... I am i have made this same decision i think the trust is no longer there. And everyday is an argument so not worth it and this is not the life i want to live either i don't want drugs in my life and the sad part is that my 18 year old might be following his foot steps and that kills me even more. Thank you for the advise we have been fighting over who gets the house but honestly i think the house s in foreclosure. Thank you for the advise, God bless you.!
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
Marisol, no matter WHAT God loves you. I am in a very similiar situation. Been married for 24 years. I am tired myself. It gets old. Remember, God loves your 18 year old MORE than you do, He will work in their life to bring them to himself. Unfortunatey, as you know, they will have to experience some pain before seeking the Lord. You are a strong person to have put up with things so long. Keep praying to God and seek His face, He will give you peace Marisol. A friend once told me, "Your husband can have different types of affairs. With another women, with alcohol, with work, etc." That made me think. Fortunately my husband stopped drinking every day, but takes more Zanax to make up for it. I don't know. We support each other here. Thanks for sharing and remember God loves you!!
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Permalink Reply by Sharla Parry on
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Marisol, I have to say that marriage God's way is a covenant and that is what I would want.
I was married for 15 years and put up with a lot of things until one day I discovered that he had a whole lifestyle that I could not approve of and was an abomination in God's eyes.
I walked away and am the better for it. I am comfortable with who I am despite that I have never remarried. I would like companionship and friendship but I also know that God is my husband and he always is a gentleman and looks after me.
I know that He does not want you to remain where you should not be. He has a plan for your life. To prosper you not hinder you. Walking away may be the best thing you ever did for yourself.
Sounds like your husband broke the covenant along time ago. If it brings peace in your heart then you know it is better than being in pain.
God loves you and so do I even though I do not know you.
Blessings.
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Permalink Reply by Diana Meyer Bobo on
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Sharla ~ I too have had that happen.... thought I was married to a Godly man, who went to church and helped out at the church and at home ~ until about 2yrs ago I found out that he was living a life/life-style that was NOT God honoring and I thought he would change... He told me back in October that he has done this since he was younger (un-beknownist to me) and he can't stop ~ or won't I guess was a better word.... so I left ~ luckily we had no children together, but we do still attend the same church and it just saddens me!!! But, like you I am better off too and will eventually find that PEACE that you seem to have ~
thanks for being open and sharing
your sister in Christ
Diana
Sharla Parry said:Marisol, I have to say that marriage God's way is a covenant and that is what I would want.
I was married for 15 years and put up with a lot of things until one day I discovered that he had a whole lifestyle that I could not approve of and was an abomination in God's eyes.
I walked away and am the better for it. I am comfortable with who I am despite that I have never remarried. I would like companionship and friendship but I also know that God is my husband and he always is a gentleman and looks after me.
I know that He does not want you to remain where you should not be. He has a plan for your life. To prosper you not hinder you. Walking away may be the best thing you ever did for yourself.
Sounds like your husband broke the covenant along time ago. If it brings peace in your heart then you know it is better than being in pain.
God loves you and so do I even though I do not know you.
Blessings.
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Permalink Reply by Marisol Bracken on
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AMEN.... Thank you so much for those kind words.... I love you too and may god bless you with the kindness hearted godly man who can love you for ever, My prayers are with you too.
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