Making a list of what one wants to find in that one special person in a relationship

I have dated on and off for the last few years... and came across a few people who had decided to make a list of the important things that they would like to find in a mate... I thought this was actually a great idea...  maybe better yet.... a long side that list, there should be a list that God would require of a Christian relationship as well... this I think would make a well balanced plan of action...

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Knowing what you want and what is acceptable is a very important part of finding that special someone!

I do think it is important to understand the difference between a desire and a flat out requirement however.

We need to know our priorities, and to make sure that above all we are doing as God wills.

That being said I think there is room for compromise on most things in our requirements for a wife or husband, and we should always remember that they will have similar lists.

I hope you find someone who will meet your requirements and exceed them! And that the two of you can develop a healthy godly relationship :)

Thanks Justin

I think at this point I am leaning on what God requires as I think that my list could never out do what God has planned... and there are times we as humans think we need certain requirements and plans and then realize later that their requirements have shifted in a different direction.... and there are others that have stuck to their list and found that special person... I guess my thought was to have what God requires along side any and all choices...
 
Justin McCleskey said:

Knowing what you want and what is acceptable is a very important part of finding that special someone!

I do think it is important to understand the difference between a desire and a flat out requirement however.

We need to know our priorities, and to make sure that above all we are doing as God wills.

That being said I think there is room for compromise on most things in our requirements for a wife or husband, and we should always remember that they will have similar lists.

I hope you find someone who will meet your requirements and exceed them! And that the two of you can develop a healthy godly relationship :)

I did that same list in my early 20s after my divorce...because I knew what I didn't want to deal with ..no matter what because I lived it and the hurt I received did not want to experience it again!!! Ok 30 now...list is very short now...a real Christian man living and walking it out....is always hard to find lol!!! Never compromise that at all....just make Ur list according to Ephesians ....it shows u what u r suppose to b as a Christian!!!!!! God Bless!!!

You are so right about Ephesians.... this is the perfect list.... we really do not need any other...
 
Christina Lucas said:

I did that same list in my early 20s after my divorce...because I knew what I didn't want to deal with ..no matter what because I lived it and the hurt I received did not want to experience it again!!! Ok 30 now...list is very short now...a real Christian man living and walking it out....is always hard to find lol!!! Never compromise that at all....just make Ur list according to Ephesians ....it shows u what u r suppose to b as a Christian!!!!!! God Bless!!!

It is a great idea, both concepts actually.  I believe both should actually be one. What we want in a mate should be what God wants for us, otherwise, we have already started off on the wrong foot. I just saw Christina's point and yes Ephesians is a great start. I think an even more important point to consider is WHAT AM I BRINGING TO THE TABLE or rather relationship? We often look for things in others but don't take the time to look at our-self. I strongly believe, I should be the person I am looking for. Kind of like do on to others....Yes, still single but I stand by that principle, to walk the walk  

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