Who Likes Being Single?

Let's face it, it's a hard world to be single in! I find myself rolling my eyes when I hear people say they like being single. Usually these are the people who are single for about 5 minutes before finding their next relationship. I've been single for about a year now and although I hated every second of it, I think there was a reason for it. I know God brings people in our lives for a reason, and I also know He takes people out of our lives for other reasons. So, the last man I was with was not the one for me. It took a while to believe it, but I do. But what do I do now? Like I said, who really likes being single...and why is it so hard to be single in this world?

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Permalink Reply by Adam on October 30, 2011 at 8:14pm

I actually don't mind being single. I admit it can be had being a single adult in a couples world. You don't really fit in anywhere. I'm more open to the idea of being in a relationship now more than ever, but I'm not actively pursuing it.

Permalink Reply by Marjan VandenBrink on October 30, 2011 at 8:58pm

I don't mind being single either, I have had my days when I wonder if there is someone out there for me. I just turned 40 this year, I have had two relationships in my life and both weren't that good. I almost married one of the guys, I only said yes to him because finally there was a guy who wanted me. But I didn't love him and he was very domineering so I ended the relationship. I haven't dated inover ten years now, I have given it over to the Lord, if there is someone there for me, the Lord will bring him into my life at his time. I ask the Lord to show me what he would like me to do with my life, I am still waiting for an answer. Being patient is very hard. I find it very hard to make friends, I don't have very many. I have one friend who lives in the same city that I do, the other ones live far away from me. The world focuses a lot on people who are married, but I know that there are more people who are single. I am glad that we can write down our thoughts on this website. I haven't been on here for quite some time because I was going through a very deep valley in my life. I am doing better now, I am looking for a job. I have a job interview tomorrow afternoon. Take care and God bless you. Marjan

Permalink Reply by Fynn Coleman on October 30, 2011 at 9:33pm

Being single can be tough but am glad that I keep myself busy to keep my mind off it. It's been 3 years for me but I travel, volunteer, in school. Sometimes I actually enjoy being single. I know that at the right time it will happen..

Permalink Reply by Marc Cannon on October 30, 2011 at 9:45pm

The Good Lord didn't put us on this earth to be alone. We all have a need for relationships. Whether it be a significant other or friends and family. We're made to have relationships. 1st with Jesus Christ and secondly with our brothers and sisters here on earth. I believe God brings certain people in our lives to teach, to help us grow, to lead and to direct us in certain directions. I lead a small group at my church on small business and while leading this group I've come to the conclusion that ever aspect of our lives need to be lived the same way. Seeking Christ in everything! In leading this group I just lead a session on having Patience in the Lord. Which is probably THE hardest thing we'll ever do. This might be a time that God is calling you to be closer to him and seek how you can fall into his will. Being single can be the best time to do that. Relationships tend to take our focus off of him and put it more on ourselves. I'm guilty of that and I think we all are. So just be patient...That doesn't mean sit back and wait...That means be patient for that in your life but aggressively seek Jesus and what he wants for this part of your life. Remember, prayer is your lifeline to any question you ever have about anything. Hopefully that made some sense. :)

Permalink Reply by Teresa Long on October 31, 2011 at 6:36pm

I actually do not mind being single except for a few things. I have been married for 28 years and it ended in a very bad divorce. Now I can say, was I with someone those 28 years, yes, but were they with me, no. I was alone for the biggest part of the 28 years, except for my kids. I am alone now, but the difference is I do not have to play act like everything is okay and we have a good marriage. I can be myself and say I am having a bad day or having a great day. I have many friends, but the down side to that is they are married friends and they do not know what it is like to face singles world in a couples world. I am okay except there are times when you want someone to listen to you of the opposite sex and say it will be okay, and give you a hug that is not necessarily from your family. I have been lonely and have been alone and there is a definite difference. There are alot of things going on in my life and I would like God to put a Godly man in my life to share those things with, but if it means going through some of the same stuff, I will take being alone and single. I think both marriage and being singles have their ups and downs.

Permalink Reply by joel curtis on October 31, 2011 at 8:26pm

I find it has good/bad side's I can serve the LORD more with music ministry , but lonely some-times

Permalink Reply by Heather Ahrens on November 6, 2011 at 7:08pm

I'm 21 and have never dated. I sometimes find myself thinking that maybe I need to change, or be more outgoing. I just graduated from culinary school and have two jobs in this industry. The life of a chef/cook is not relationship-friendly, as the hours are often crazy and we usually never know when we will actually finish for the day. The few times a week that I do have a break from work, I miss having someone special to just hang out with or talk to. But I realize that I really don't need to worry about it. God's plan for my life is bigger and better than anything I could ever come up with on my own, and if that plan includes a special someone, then it will happen in His time. And if it's going to be just me and God for the rest of my life, then I'll be ok with that too. Might have to get a third job though :-)

Permalink Reply by Nettie Marie on November 13, 2011 at 6:03pm

I'm not sure if this may help but find those Bible verses that concentrate upon His love just for those like us: A great one is Exodus22:22 - "Thou shall not afflict any widow.." NKJV. This verse goes on to say that if anyone comes against an obedient single/never-married/widow, they will be punished righteously so. Notice this verse doesnt say "Thou shall not afflict any married one." He knows we need extra encouragement and sometimes, extra protection. i have several testimonies, (some close call ones too) about my singlehood that God has personally delivered me from if it will help cheer you! LMK! God loves you and so do we! Sending some sun over your way: ~0~ ~0~ ~0~ !!!

Permalink Reply by Ed Lock on November 15, 2011 at 9:13pm

I use to really hate being single. Just recently, I have decided to stay single, for now at least, until GOD tells me to get married. I think that single people are actually overlooked by the church. I told my pastor that I would love to find a singles group at a church, and he said that he had treid to get one going but it did not take off, maybe I need to sit down with him nad talk about it and both of us pray about it. I also feel that as a single christian, the doors to serve GOD are wide open.

Permalink Reply by Nettie Marie on November 16, 2011 at 11:03am

Go, Ed! That is true faith talking! I am working on doing the same with my church... Yes, i agree wholeheartedly: Singles are long forgotten in the church for the large part when God makes it very clear in His Bible that singles/widows, etc are His special people he tends to have extra favor on. LMK how you succeed! ~ :)

Ed Lock said:

I use to really hate being single. Just recently, I have decided to stay single, for now at least, until GOD tells me to get married. I think that single people are actually overlooked by the church. I told my pastor that I would love to find a singles group at a church, and he said that he had treid to get one going but it did not take off, maybe I need to sit down with him nad talk about it and both of us pray about it. I also feel that as a single christian, the doors to serve GOD are wide open.

Permalink Reply by Mary Yost Williams on November 16, 2011 at 5:40pm

I've been single now for 3 1/2 years. My biggest struggle with being single is this wasn't my choice. However, God is forever faithful. When I cry myself to sleep He is there. He knows me. I am His daughter & He loves me. That doesn't always help when I feel lonely or left out. It is Truth though! I also struggle with anger & I don't want to be angry.

Permalink Reply by Anita Gregory on November 17, 2011 at 3:19pm

I say this unto everyone who feels lonely or is tried of being single. There is a time and place for everyone. If it is that your are single, such as myself, remember God will never leave you nor forsake you in any momment or time. This time may be the time for your soul and spirit to dwell and meditate on the word of God. god brings people into your life to show you who's God. But you have to know Him and yourself before you can be in a relationship with anyone else. Be paitent and waite God knows what you need more then you know. When that person comes you will be ready to take on that blessing of a truely soul mate.Remember that through Christ anything is possible, have faith and dont give up or give in....

With Love, AGR

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