Who Likes Being Single?

Let's face it, it's a hard world to be single in! I find myself rolling my eyes when I hear people say they like being single. Usually these are the people who are single for about 5 minutes before finding their next relationship. I've been single for about a year now and although I hated every second of it, I think there was a reason for it. I know God brings people in our lives for a reason, and I also know He takes people out of our lives for other reasons. So, the last man I was with was not the one for me. It took a while to believe it, but I do. But what do I do now? Like I said, who really likes being single...and why is it so hard to be single in this world?

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Permalink Reply by Jessica on January 23, 2012 at 9:06pm

Adam, there is nothing men in general are doing wrong or failing to do. :) It's just a hard world to be in as a single 20-something year old. I find myself seeing my friends dating and falling in love, so I think most of my fear comes from feeling left out. BUT, I am hopeful that I'll be graced with a man who can handle my strength and show me the compassion and love I know I deserve.

Sorry, Adam. I hope you didn't think my orginial note was to bash men...not my hope at all. I know there are a lot of single men out there looking for the samething I'm looking for. Here's to me finding one of them! :)

Permalink Reply by Adam on January 23, 2012 at 9:31pm

Oh no, Jessica. I didn't think you or Linda were being demeaning, only... frustrated, and perhaps weary of bad relationships, or simply the lack thereof. I was just wondering if you had any insights, in general, that you felt were missing from your past/current male suitors. I hopefully learn from my mistakes (at least part of the time), and hey if I can learn from the shortcomings and mistakes of others, I'll try to in order save me and those around me a lot of headache, or heartache, as the case may be. At any rate, judging from the number of replies to your discussion, I'd say you kicked over an ant mound. This topic is obviously on the heart and mind of a lot of folks.

YES, you do deserve compassion and love. Don't ever settle for a man that treats you poorly. I once heard a wise man say, "Its' better to be single, than to wish you were." I'd say that's sage advise for us all. At least it has helped give me pause and so as to not rush into any relationship that was not good for me.

Blessings,

Adam

Jessica said:

Adam, there is nothing men in general are doing wrong or failing to do. :) It's just a hard world to be in as a single 20-something year old. I find myself seeing my friends dating and falling in love, so I think most of my fear comes from feeling left out. BUT, I am hopeful that I'll be graced with a man who can handle my strength and show me the compassion and love I know I deserve.

Sorry, Adam. I hope you didn't think my orginial note was to bash men...not my hope at all. I know there are a lot of single men out there looking for the samething I'm looking for. Here's to me finding one of them! :)

Permalink Reply by Linda Caputo on January 23, 2012 at 10:43pm

I hope I didn't come off that way Adam I'm sorry if it sounded like that, I just want the same thing any woman wants is to be loved and not lied to and cheated on!. I just picked poorly and it won't happen again. thanks for being understanding.

Linda

Permalink Reply by Adam on January 23, 2012 at 11:06pm

Linda, no apologizes necessary. I didn't provide enough context to my request. As I replied to Jessica (see above), my question was merely for personal information and understanding of a woman's point-of-view. I'm sorry I didn't make that more clear. Thank you for sharing. Adam

Linda Caputo said:

I hope I didn't come off that way Adam I'm sorry if it sounded like that, I just want the same thing any woman wants is to be loved and not lied to and cheated on!. I just picked poorly and it won't happen again. thanks for being understanding.

Linda

Permalink Reply by Shannon Beard on January 30, 2012 at 8:49pm

There are days when I don't mind being single and there are days when I wish I was in a relationship. I have been single for almost 9 years and I have no children. I know God has been working on my life and believe me I have needed lots of help. I gave my love life to Jesus and made a commitment to stay pure until He brought me the man He wanted for me as a husband. Maybe one day soon I will meet the man of my dreams. In the meantime my standards have increased and through God I will not settle.

Permalink Reply by AT on February 15, 2012 at 8:51pm

I like the independence of being single, but there are times where I miss being in a relationship. My last relationship was for 7 years. We were married for almost 4 years. I've been single for over 1.5 yrs. Being single has given me time to grieve the loss of a life I thought would last forever. It has also made me realize that I lost who I really was as a person. Looking back on my childhood, I had so many hobbies and interest. I played sports, rode my bike, and played the piano. Now, I've lost that desire to do those things. I know I have to figure out what I want to do in my life.

I need to focus on God's Word to comfort and guide me. I know there is a better plan for my life, but I have to be still and listen to God's direction.

Permalink Reply by LD on March 11, 2012 at 11:35pm

I hear you girl! I think that the media pushes us to be in relationships. I have just recently stopped watching television because of this issue. The world shows unrealistic views of what relationships cannot be. It is all a fantasy. I pray for you and think you should pray and ask God to take this burden from you. God has your husband. He is fixing him and will be shipping him out to you when God feels that you are ready. God is the only one truly looking out for your best interest, trust him. :)

Permalink Reply by Reyna Barrios on April 15, 2012 at 4:26pm

Thanks! Totally needed this!

Marc Cannon said:

The Good Lord didn't put us on this earth to be alone. We all have a need for relationships. Whether it be a significant other or friends and family. We're made to have relationships. 1st with Jesus Christ and secondly with our brothers and sisters here on earth. I believe God brings certain people in our lives to teach, to help us grow, to lead and to direct us in certain directions. I lead a small group at my church on small business and while leading this group I've come to the conclusion that ever aspect of our lives need to be lived the same way. Seeking Christ in everything! In leading this group I just lead a session on having Patience in the Lord. Which is probably THE hardest thing we'll ever do. This might be a time that God is calling you to be closer to him and seek how you can fall into his will. Being single can be the best time to do that. Relationships tend to take our focus off of him and put it more on ourselves. I'm guilty of that and I think we all are. So just be patient...That doesn't mean sit back and wait...That means be patient for that in your life but aggressively seek Jesus and what he wants for this part of your life. Remember, prayer is your lifeline to any question you ever have about anything. Hopefully that made some sense. :)

Permalink Reply by AT on April 15, 2012 at 11:13pm

I completely agree about how the media promotes relationships. It paints the picture of the traditional family structure (father, mother, and children), especially around the holidays. Being single is tough enough, especially when you are a single parent, but the media makes it worse. Plus, most churches consist of the traditional family structure.

On one of the FB apps, "Quotes for You" posted this quote: "When God knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment, He will reveal the right person under the right circumstances. Wait patiently. Don't waste your time searching and wishing. Grow and be ready. And you'll see. God will give you a love story far better than you can ever dream of".

LD said:

I hear you girl! I think that the media pushes us to be in relationships. I have just recently stopped watching television because of this issue. The world shows unrealistic views of what relationships cannot be. It is all a fantasy. I pray for you and think you should pray and ask God to take this burden from you. God has your husband. He is fixing him and will be shipping him out to you when God feels that you are ready. God is the only one truly looking out for your best interest, trust him. :)

Permalink Reply by April S. on April 22, 2012 at 4:35pm

Amen to that!

AT said:

I completely agree about how the media promotes relationships. It paints the picture of the traditional family structure (father, mother, and children), especially around the holidays. Being single is tough enough, especially when you are a single parent, but the media makes it worse. Plus, most churches consist of the traditional family structure.

On one of the FB apps, "Quotes for You" posted this quote: "When God knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment, He will reveal the right person under the right circumstances. Wait patiently. Don't waste your time searching and wishing. Grow and be ready. And you'll see. God will give you a love story far better than you can ever dream of".

LD said:

I hear you girl! I think that the media pushes us to be in relationships. I have just recently stopped watching television because of this issue. The world shows unrealistic views of what relationships cannot be. It is all a fantasy. I pray for you and think you should pray and ask God to take this burden from you. God has your husband. He is fixing him and will be shipping him out to you when God feels that you are ready. God is the only one truly looking out for your best interest, trust him. :)

Permalink Reply by David Pon on May 21, 2012 at 11:47am

I find it hard to be single. I would have to say being single for as long as I have been has taught me a few things about myself. I have meet some interesting and not so interesting people in my journy. But I have faith in God that he will send me someone soon. I agree people who say they like being single are the type that can find a date in a blink of an eye. I often wonder if I am not as confindent as them or....well....I am not so sure. But I have faith that God will bring something into my life as I am sure God will do the same for you.

Permalink Reply by Mary T. Denman on May 21, 2012 at 1:12pm

I don't mind being single either. I have a full and happy life with a lot more freedom than when I was married. When God connects me with that special person someday, I'm sure that I will have a peace about it and w'll both know we're meant to be together.

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