Hi Kas - I just read your post about anger. Please know I will pray for you and your kids. Anger is part of grieving. But we need to know that and not get stuck there. The message on Sunday at church was on hope. I truly thought God was speaking directly to me through the pastor. As long as we have hope we WILL be ok! Decide what you are hoping for and stay the course. Hope is persistence in keeping on until it is fulfilled. Persistence comes one step at a time. Maybe you can do one small thing as a family each day. It is a start. I have started praying over my kids each morning before we all leave the house. Seems like a simple thing but it was hard to start doing. Maybe one small thing will draw you closer. Maybe give everyone a job in the dinner prep process. By the time you sit down to eat everyong has participated in bringing dinner to the table. It might be just the little draw needed to open up conversation. Just a thought. But don't give up! Unresolved anger turns to bitterness. You all have the feeling of being let down with the loss of your husband. This easily turns into anger. However, we can't stay there. I will pray that God will show you what you need to do to help your kids with this - and to help yourself with it.
May God bless you and keep you. May God shine His light upon you!!
Hi Kas - I am not sure what is ok or when to post on a topic. No matter. How was your Thanksgiving? It is a hard time of year. We went spent it with some very dear friends in the DC area. It was good to get away. I didn't realize until we got home that this trip was what we needed to break the daily routine we have been in. I stopped thinking about all the things I "need" to do for 4 days. It was refreshing.
Our friends in DC have one of those Nuwave ovens - the ones on the infomercial. I don't know if you have seen them. HOwever, I have been looking at these things for years now. After seeing how my friends use theirs, and they are particular, I decided to go ahead and get one. Merry Christmas to me. Anyway, the reason I bring this up is that I believe it is part of how God is answering my prayer about how to make dinner for my kids in the evening. This oven cooks meat from a frozen state!! I can pull out some frozen chicken breasts and put them in this oven along with some veggies for maybe an hour (not sure on time because I haven't received the oven yet) and dinner is served. It also does a very good job warming up a plate of food. I know the microwave heats food, too, but it is different. The edges aren't hard or dried out. The flavor is good. I am clearing a place on my counter to keep it on now. God does answer prayer in some strange ways. I made my kids use it when we were at our friends house so they would get comfortable with it.
We also decided to do something different for a Christmas tree this year. In the past we have put up an artificial tree and we always seem to end up fighting. So, this year we decided to get a small tinsel tree at Target. It is 6 foot tall but only about 2 feet around, shiny green. We put fun bright red and bright green ornaments on it. It is festive yet did not require a lot of work. My kind of tree. We are trying to do things differently and this is just one of the ways we found to change things up a bit.