I am not a marriage counselor but I think after 36 years of being married I have gained a little insight as to why your marriage is failing or headed in that direction. If yours or anyone's relationship is to remain steadfast and healthy as married couples it has to have a foundation. If you believe the Scriptures to be absolutely true then you must from this day forward place Christ as THE head over your marriage. "Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain". Psalm 127:1 Notice "they labor in vain".
Let's say for example you as a husband bend over backward day in and day out going to that dreaded job or even a job that you like; you bring in a half-way decent income; you have great benefits with two weeks paid vacation, so on and so forth. The only problem is that your wife isn't a Proverbs 31 lady (Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. Proverbs 31: 10-16)
and more often then you would like to admit she squanders your hard earned money on 'stuff' and things that don't contribute to not only your welfare but the welfare of the little ones too.
Maybe it is the other way around and instead of staying put at home you think it is perfectly all right to hang out with the guys twice a week at the golf course leaving your kids longing for dad to spend time with them. The message, by the way, comes across perfectly clear that the wife's place is at home doing all of the cleaning and child raising by herself while you think that because you pay the bills that is all you need to do. You might think within yourself: ' I bring home the bacon and the wife takes care of matters at home'. Well if this depicts you or her, guess what, you need not ask: 'why is my marriage failing'? the answer is Christ is not the Head. Oh for sure everything is fine now because this marriage vow is relatively new, but mark it down, you are headed for the divorce courts sometime sooner than you think. God gave both of you to not to do your own thing but to do His will.
Think about it. If both of you know the Lord Jesus Christ and are in fact saved then neither one of you belong to yourselves as Scripture clearly states: "The wife hath not power of
her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not
power of his own body, but the wife." 1 Corinthians 7:4 I can almost hear you saying: 'wait a minute that's in the Bible'? Of course, there are always those Scriptures taken out of context by many a selfish deluded husband..you know the ones that basically allows a husband to be a tyrant at home. Before I share that one may I ask Really? Do you really wonder why your marriage is failing? Anyway, here it is: " Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-24 Unfortunately there are many divorces based on the misinterpretation of those verses. For some strange reason Ephesians 5:25 goes unnoticed: " Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."Guys I implore thee in the name of Jesus Christ don't be idiots! You may have won her with your charm or whatever, but don't allow a marriage license to go to your heads. The bible says: "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord." Proverbs 18:22. are you going to treat her like you would your brand new car? What do you mean you might ask? Guys get bored easy. After a while that shiny new car becomes commonplace and the novelty wears out and it either becomes just another vehicle or it is time to get rid of it and get a new one.
Before you know it another newer model happens to drive by and catches your eye and you just got to have that one! Just as you lust after the car you begin having an adulterous eye and that other woman seems to be quite the package deal! Wake up! If you don't keep that honeymoon alive you will most certainly wake up some day asking: 'why is my marriage failing'?